What have you done?!

Over on The Bimillenial Man my spirit brother did this little survey thingy that's been going around on facebook. I'll take his lead and do it here on my blog rather than there because, why not? I've left the ones not done in red. Many of these questions are rather infantile, like little kids fishing for info on their friends, hence why it's making its way around on fb, but it's still fun. The kid in us is always there and sometime he/she likes to come out to play, no? So, let's play.





1. HAD SEX:
Well, yeah. Wife. Daughter. Fourth decade of life. I would hope so.


2. SMOKED:
Yes. Luckily for me I don't have an addictive personality so I can take it or leave it. At one point in my young adulthood I was smoking nearly two packs a day. So sick. I quit cold turkey one day when I realized I had no breathing capacity for strenuous physical activity. Didn't smoke at all for nearly two years. My friends were amazed. It was simple for me. The ability to run for my life was more important than any minimal pleasure I got out of smoking.
Haven't smoked in a long while. Only ever get the craving when I'm out and drinking. Otherwise, I'm done with that.


3. GOT DRUNK:
Yes. I've been SMASHED more times than really necessary for a human. Hey, 10 years in the Air Force it's going to happen. Again, something I'm not locked to. I enjoy a drink now and then but I don't really drink to get drunk too much anymore. I like single malt scotch and nice stouts, porters, ales, and hard ciders.


4. WENT SKINNY DIPPING
No. At least I don't remember doing that. Nope.


5. KISSED SOMEONE OF THE OPPOSITE SEX:
Come on son. Of course I have. I love kissing women.


6. KISSED SOMEONE OF THE SAME SEX:
Hell to the N-O. At least not in a romantic or sexual way. I kissed my father when I was a kid. That's about it. Don't count.


7. CHEATED ON A TEST:
Heh-heh. Oh yeah. I was a kid, smart, intelligent, and lazy. What?


8. FELL ASLEEP IN CLASS:
All the time. I even fell asleep in my military classes in technical school. And was still one of the top three students in my class. Yeah, I'm good. No cheating either.


9. BEEN EXPELLED:
Nah.

10. BEEN IN A FIST FIGHT:
Yup. Never lost a toe to toe fight in my life. Haven't had many but enough to know I can handle myself. And I've learned a lot since I was young.


11. STOLE SOMETHING:
I was introduced to the skill of thieving at a very early age. Much too early unfortunately and it was a personality trait for a very long time. Most of my childhood actually. I'm so glad I grew beyond that.


12. DONE DRUGS:
Technically no I didn't DO them. Like number 11, the same people who I learned how to steal from introduced into my system something that should never be given to a child. I've since forgiven them but... Otherwise as an adult, no.


13. DYED YOUR HAIR:
No.


14. CRIED YOURSELF TO SLEEP:
Yes. The woman I loved and wanted to marry died.


15. BEEN IN LOVE:
Yes. Many times.


16. GOT CAUGHT DOING SOMETHING YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE BEEN DOING:
Yeah. It happens.


17. WENT STREAKING:
No. Not even pissy drunk would I do this.


18. GOT ARRESTED:
Well yes. No real criminal activity. Traffic bullshit.

19. MADE OUT WITH SOMEONE:
Dumb ass question. I was a very, very, very young kid my first time. I've ALWAYS liked girls!


20. PEED IN THE POOL:
I'm sure I have. An accident though.


21. PLAYED SPIN THE BOTTLE:
Yeah. As an adult when I was in the military once. Nothing happened.


22. DONE SOMETHING YOU REGRET:
No, no not really. Things I used to think I regretted I realized brought me onto paths that I would never change, so no. Never. For instance, when I was 11 years old I finally got my wish: To go live with my mother. I lived with her for two years but because I wasn't doing as well in school as I had been when I was with my father I had to back to him. Incidentally, that is the first time in my life that I was brokenhearted. However, if I hadn't gone back to NY to live with my father I most likely would have never met my spirit brother, The Bimillenial Man, my bestestest friend in this entire universe! You think I regret that?



There you go. Like my spirit brother, despite us both growing up in the South Bronx, I've lead a relatively sheltered life. I'm no innocent but I'm not exactly a hell raiser either. I think I'm a healthy rebel. If you're so inclined you can let me know which of these you've done in your life.


LAterz

A year in the life...Talea's 1st Bornday!!

Well, it's been a year since the birth of Talea, my daughter and first child.  She still lives! And with no major damage! My wife and I must be doing something right. Now we just have to keep doing it for, oh, I don't know, FOREVER! :-)  I love that kid so much! She is the happiest person I have ever had the pleasure of spending time with and my only goal in life is to make sure she stays that way. She really has her own personality already and it's just the greatest joy just to watch her BE. For sure there have been little mishaps here and there but nothing permanently damaging or detrimental to her health. She loves to learn, and given who her parents are, that is a very good thing. She loves to read books, but that should also be a given. Walking was her main thing for a while but now she's moved onto talking. She is really, really, really trying to get all the words in her head out now. And also trying to get her hands to work the signs correctly, though we usually figure out what she's trying to tell us. Eventually! She is really good at getting her point across and getting her way. :-)

Here's some pics from her wonderful Bornday!

Decorations courtesy of Mommy and Daddy power

Best cake EVAR!

What?! I got a phone!

Watch me make this ball disappear.

You see my bowl is empty, right?

What you mean no more cake and ice cream?!

Daddy!

Uncle David!

YAY!

What?!!!!!!

*Discreetly reaching for that last piece*

Told you, that last piece is mine, yo!

Let's get the last of it before Daddy comes back.

The party is not over!

 There is so much going on right now in our lives but this here is just for the Bornday girl! SO,

HAPPY BORNDAY TALEA!!!!!! 

I am eagerly looking forward to so many more! Daddy loves you!

Interesting Encounter - Goodness is alive in the world still

Had to go to a certain office today to look into a certain situation. While we, meaning my wife and daughter and I, were getting ready to leave a seemingly homeless man approached us. His hair was  wildly unkempt, he stooped, and he had that certain scent that wafts from those who usually don't have a place to call home and wash. His only purpose was to tell us what a lovely family we were and that god would bless us, watch over us, and solve all of our problems. Now, me being who I am, I was on guard while listening to him. Some random dude, who also seems to have a slight or more than slight mental condition, just walks up on me with my family can be quick to get dealt with. But I like to think that I am a quick assessor of a given situation, and I know that my wife is, and besides, I saw him approach and didn't see/feel a threat. But I stay ready. Always. Anyway, he went on to explain that he watched us as we got our daughter ready to leave and he was moved by the care and love in which we handled her and dealt with each other. When he finished we thanked him, and because we were still getting her ready he decided to recite a poem for us. I wish I had an eidetic memory because I'd write it here for you to read because it was very nice. I don't know if it was something he had rattling around in his head for a while or something he freestyled on the spot but I was moved, as was my wife. We thanked him again and as we were leaving a lady sitting in the room called out to us. She also told us that we were a very nice family. We thanked her as well and left. I was very amused that the lady said something because I realized as soon as she spoke that she only said something because the man did.       Most people would have either walked away from and/or ignored the man just because of his appearance alone. I'm glad that my wife and I are made of better stuff. This man saw something he thought was beautiful and far too scarce in this world and decided to speak on it. He felt moved to. Far too many people are afraid to speak. I am proud that my wife, my daughter, and I exude enough love for someone, anyone to notice and speak. This is not the first time we have been approached in this manner but it is definitely a standout moment for me. I am truly humbled and feel extremely fortunate to have such wonderful people love me so much that it radiates to others. Days like today make me feel less saddened about the world my daughter was born into.

5 Most Influential Books

I love to read. Always have. Stories are the fabric that make up the gestalt mind of humanity and I love 'em all. Fiction, non-fiction, technical manuals, scientific journals, instructional textbooks, if it can be read I'll read it as long as I find it interesting. Much of what I have read in my life has had some shaping of the person that I am.

I also love the time I've grown up in. As a huge Sci-fi fan I've read about the future and possibilities of human existence, particularly technology. I've seen some forms of the things I read, dreamed, and speculated about as a child actually come to reality. Cell phones, tablet computers, the world wide web, etc. I love reading a book or magazine on my Thrive, or having nearly my whole music library on a little device smaller than the average wallet, or having the ability to call, surf the web, or play a game on one little machine that fits in the palm of my hand.

And yet...I was born in an older time before all of these things, so, I have a very special affinity for real, tangible books.  I love books! The way they feel, look, and smell is just wonderful. I love walking into bookstores and libraries just to be in the midst of so much knowledge and imagination. I especially love the feel and smell of a used bookstore. It is simply heavenly. I've found some literary treasures. I've been reading nearly all my life and so I have quite the collection as well. You can check it out here if you so desire. I'm sure there's a few I'm missing but that's most of them. And I've said all of this to get to the point of this blog: The 5 books that had the most influence on my life.


My Book of Bible Stories

This is the first book I remember reading in my life. At first I just looked at the very detailed and awesome illustrations in it but it didn't take me long to learn to read the words that explained the wonderful pictures I loved to look at. This book right here is responsible for my love of fantasy stories. (Didn't expect that did ya.) I'm not going to get into a religious conversation here because you can find my stance on religion elsewhere on my blog. This is simply a really good book that simplified the stories in the bible so that anyone could understand them clearly. And the artwork was/is phenomenal. I am very glad that I was not made to believe these stories were supposed to be true but left to my own devices of interpretation. I did not understand the "importance" of the bible when I first began reading this and that was a blessing indeed.


Aesop's Fables


I have some of my fondest childhood memories of Aesop's Fables. As a very young child my father read them to my brother and I as bedtime stories. Every story was a lesson and my father made sure that we understood each one. He had a beautiful large hardcover copy with some of the most beautiful illustrations I have ever had the pleasure to see of these fables. The reason I do not have a pic for this entry is I do not have the book any longer because a teacher, Gerianne F. Scott, stole it from me a long time ago and I'm still very upset about it. I also cannot find a copy or pic online.


Glory Lane by Alan Dean Foster

This book right here is absolutely responsible for my lifelong love of Science Fiction! My mother brought this for me when I was about ten or eleven. Still my favorite book ever. An adventure that begins on the third planet from our sun and blasts off into the far reaches of the universe. Three humans get mixed up with an alien hiding out on our planet. The ultimate lesson of the story is doing the right thing because it is the right thing instead of the advantageous thing. Alan Dean Foster is still one of my most favorite authors in SF to this day. I have collected almost all of his published books. This is also one of my favorite book covers EVAR! It is a wrap around cover with all of these very interesting and far-out aliens all over and the three humans looking out like, "Whoa!" The book covers in my youth were the best. Great artistry that went missing for quite a while but I notice is making a comeback. Just another reason I love the genre of speculative fiction. Thanks Ma!


Street Lethal by Steven Barnes

This is my very favorite book next to Glory Lane. Street Lethal was the first book I read where the main character was someone I could literally see myself as without stretching the imagination too far. It was also the first SF book I read by a Black author. The awesomeness of this for me is without bounds. I've written elsewhere on my blog about why such a thing is so important to me so I won't delve into that here. Just know that Aubry Knight is still my favorite character ever and I would really, really, really, really, really, really love to see this on the big screen one day. And again, I love the cover of this one. This cover is a reprint but I am so glad it is the one that introduced me to Steven. The original cover didn't reflect what was inside as much as this one does. LOVE IT!!!! This book was also the first of a trilogy of stories centered on Aubry Knight and Promise, Aubry's lady love. The other two books "Gorgon Child" and "Firedance" are wonderful books as well. I've met Steven and he is an awesome person. I look forward to the next meeting.

Futureland: Nine Stories of an Imminent World - by Walter Mosley

This book here blew my mind. This here is not the future I was accustomed to reading about in most science fiction and thank the higher powers (and Walter Mosley) that it was written and given to the world to read! Gritty, unpleasant, gripping, hopeful, plus a whole lot of other adjectives cannot do this book justice. The plays of power, belief, social status, love, family, and friendship are just phenomenal. This book literally changed how I want to write and encouraged me to want to write the future I see in my mind. And the format of the story is also something that I had never had the experience of reading before. It's a novel told through nine interrelated and interlinking stories. Each story is phenomenal enough to stand on it's own and yet, the sum FAR outweighs the parts in this here tale. If/when I ever get to meet Mr. Mosley the first thing I will say to him is Thank You for Futureland! The scariest thing about this story is I can see this happening, in many ways, in our real timeline. I love it! Walter Mosley became a well known writer for his mysteries, particularly the Easy Rawlins novels, that begins with "Devil in a Blue Dress," which was turned into a film, where a particularly famous and excellent actor by the name of Denzel played the title character. Who would have guessed his mind encompassed so much more? Futureland definitely made him one of my favorite writers.


And there you go. The 5 most influential books in my life so far. I cannot wait to read them all again! There are so many other books that are high on my importance list and yet it wasn't hard to pick these 5. That should tell you something.  I hope you enjoyed reading and I really hope you go out and check these out. Which books have been an influence in your life? Let me know in the comments or if you are so inclined write your own blog and let me know. You might just give me something interesting to read next!


Also, my best friend The Bimillennial Man did his own list. Check him out.

Already a hell of a year.

Hello world. I'm still here. Still bloggin'. Been a while, I know. Life got interesting the last two years, particularly in the last few weeks. Doesn't seem like so much time has passed or so much has happened until I reflect on it. With the amount of events that happened in my life the last two years seem much, much longer. Feels like nearly ten years went by. I ended one relationship, started another, got married, had a baby, graduated college, quit one job to start another job, was let go from that job after just five months with no real explanation, and moved to a larger and more expensive apartment. So, I find myself in the unenviable position of a having a wife and child and no employment. To top that all off, my bestest friend in the whole wide universe is getting a divorce. I mention it because I hurt for him. I know how much he loved his wife and I was there when the spark struck that lit the love that has, now, blown out. He himself blogged about it, which tells me a great deal of how much he's given without getting anything in return for quite some time. I'm not really surprised but...it's still kind of a shock. I'm am deeply saddened by this. My own situation is nothing compared to this. I can get a job. But my friend will persevere. He is strong: Mind, Body, and Spirit.

SO! My little one is walking now. Talea is ten months old and nearly running already. Still has the most beautiful smile I have ever seen. Long wild curly hair. Loves to climb and make noise. She really, really wants to talk so bad. Her mother took her to a sign language class called Baby Fingers a few months ago, and she's starting to get the hang of signing at us for what she wants. Mostly food. It's so wonderful to recognize that my daughter is actually communicating with us and we can understand her. My wife is brilliant. I would have never thought of something like that. Tren, my wife, is always looking for some class or researching some information about the development of infants/children and trying something or planning something. I am a very fortunate individual. Smart too. I married her.  ;-)

I love being home with Talea. Tren has recently gone back to school to finish her last semester, so me being without a job is semi-convenient for us both. The only problem is things cost money. Not hurting yet, but I'm going to need some income coming in soon. I'm not worried. But I'm not stupid either. I'm putting some things in motion. We'll see what pans out and what does not. For the most part I'm happy, my wife is happy, and, more important than anything else in this universe or any other, my daughter is happy and safe.

Here's something to brighten your life until next time I post.

Can't tell me that isn't Daddy's little girl.

 LAterz!

P.S. To all the parents that stay home and actually take care of their kids, stay strong. It is the hardest work there is. It is also the most important work one can do, raising a life. Respect.

Hello there!

Been gone for quite a while, I know. Been busy. It is the Year of the Dragon and I'm a Dragon so whadaya expect?! I'll let you judge: Finally finalized a rather serious...situation. [Vague I know but gotta leave it that way for now. Sorry.] Got married. Had a baby. Well, my wife had the baby, I just helped make her. Graduated from Fordham University. Bachelor's degree. Quit one job and started another. Raising the baby.

SO...whadaya think? Busy year so far?

I love being a father. I love being a husband. These are the things I've wanted since I was very young. I remember thinking when I was about 10 or so that I wanted a family of my own. Wife, children and that's it. What job I was going to have was inconsequential to me. My parents weren't together. I wanted them to be. I remember questioning them when I was very young. I do not remember the answers I was given then. As an adult I have the the real answers now. I craved for what I didn't have then, a complete family. As in the unit. Mother, father, children. I have that now, at least I have a child not children, and I am happy about it. It is an adjustment though. I started this family thing a bit later than I planned. Not for lack of trying though. My first go round was approximately 12 years ago, the last Year of the Dragon. Didn't quite work out. I'm glad it didn't and not glad at the same time. Not glad because I truly did love the woman I was trying to have a child with at the time and I think she would have been a great mother. Of course I am very glad because I have a wonderful wife who is an even more wonderful mother to the most precious and beautiful creature I have ever witnessed on this planet. Talea is magic, pure and simple. People stop in their tracks when we go out just to stare at her. This has happened more than once. My wife's doctor actually called her a "perfect human specimen". How awesome is that?! I haven't felt as much happiness from the presence of another human since my sister was born! [That's another story I have to jot down here soon. Especially since I just mentioned it. ;-)] I mentioned Talea in my other blog a few months ago. It was in relation to a writing class I was taking. My daughter helped me graduate college! How awesome is that!

[Started this two days ago and now I've lost my train of thought. I wanted to finish it but the zone I was in is gone. Oh well. I'll just start writing and see what happens.]

Talea is growing so fast! It's been roughly seven months and the kid is trying to speak and run already! Actually she's been trying to do those things almost since she was born. She's so smart and intelligent. When I get home her face lights up with an excited smile and my day instantly becomes better. There is no better feeling than my daughter bouncing up and down in excitement 'cause she sees me. I really have to get on with improving myself in all the areas I need to so that I can not only teach her what she needs but be a great example as well. Call me crazy if you want but my goal is to raise my daughter to be a Jedi Warrior Queen. Her mother is smart and very intelligent, I'm pretty smart and kind of intelligent, so, I think Talea is on a good path with us so far. Her mother has a gift for language so Talea is already hearing French, Korean, and Spanish along with English. She is also learning sign language as well.

[Another break of a few days. Man I need to make a schedule and stick to it!]

Talea is nearly walking, crawling around, already climbing on and off things, and generally on the edge of becoming a heart attack inducer for her parents. I'm going to post this now before another few days pass by. (I slacked off way too much this month. I took a break from facebook for a month and the month is almost up. I need to step up my writing game something fierce.) Stay cool until next time.

LAterz.

edit:  I also moved to a bigger apartment this year. How'd I forget that?!

Oh, and here's the wee magic wolf cub!

Editing rant.

I'm taking a Writing for Online course online in this final semester of school, in which each of us students must maintain a blog. I'm kind of bogged down with a lot right now but I'm trying to keep up with all of my school work, part of which is reading my fellow students' blogs. I find this interesting but also extremely annoying! Why do you ask? Well, I'll tell ya. Maybe it's the writing snob in me but as interesting as some of my classmates' blog subjects might be they have a particular problem with grammar and spelling. Spelling mistakes don't bother me too much unless they're constant but wrong words and improper grammar annoy the hell out of me. For instance, knowing the difference and usage of there, their, and they're. Or your and you're. They are NOT interchangeable and since you made it to college you should probably know the difference and when to use each. I know sometimes people are in a rush and/or just overwhelmed but take a breather after you finish writing and don't post anything! After your break, go and carefully read and edit what you wrote. Hopefully you can catch the mistakes and correct them (there are programs to help with this you know). I'm not perfect by any means. I make mistakes. Some of them get past me, usually just minor spelling errors, but at least I EDIT before I POST!! Trust me, I've never mixed up there, their, or they're in anything I've ever written. That's just stupid. Sorry, it is. I'd like to assume that most of the people in this course with me paid attention in English class in their previous years of schooling, but it doesn't seem like it based on what I'm reading. And this simple shit is what makes me not want to read what they write.